How To Delete Instagram Messages From Both Sides

There comes a time when you send a private message by accident to an Instagram user you did not intend the message to, and you desperately want to delete that message.

When you take a look at the options available in the DM, you can easily see that you have the option to delete the message from your own side, but the real problem is; how do you delete the message from the other user’s end? Is it possible to do that on Instagram?

In this post we shall discuss the topic of deleting Instagram messages for the users involved in the direct message sent. Stay with us till the end to learn about all the possibilities of deleting Instagram messages from your account and other accounts involved as well.

Situations Where You Have To Delete Instagram Messages

How To Delete Instagram Messages From Both Sides

How To Delete Instagram Messages From Both Sides

Sending a message to the wrong user

It can happen that you compose an Instagram Direct Message but end up sending the message to a user you don’t even know, or someone you know but the message isn’t intended for them.

The moment you find yourself in this situation, you want to make sure they don’t read that message by all means, and the best way to do that is by deleting the message from their end also if it has already been sent to them.

Composing the wrong message

Sometimes you might compose a message but after a few minutes, you just wish that you haven’t sent the message and you’re looking for a way to get rid of the message before the user opens and reads the message.

You can also send hurtful words or anything that could be used against you when it comes to legal matters and decide to delete that message.

A lot of users make the mistake of sending harsh words or abuses to other users, like their Ex or boss. When the time comes to pay the price, they’re desperately looking for ways to clear the message.

Sending the wrong photos

It has happened a lot when users send nude pictures to their loved ones but end up to another user who shouldn’t take a look at that picture.

It can also be that your pictures aren’t well-edited or you didn’t apply the right filters, or it can be a collection of photos you wanted to upload in the DM but you missed some in the collection and wanted to upload the full series.

Deleting proof

The messages you sent on Instagram can be used against you, they can be presented in court as proof for some of your actions. It happens when users insult another user, but when matters reach court, they want to get rid of this evidence.

In these situations deleting the message won’t help because the other user has taken screenshots or has forwarded the message to another user. Sometimes it’s just too late to get rid of the direct messages you sent.

So far these are the situations where Instagram wants to delete their Instagram messages at all cost. There can be other reasons though, but these are the top ones I guess!

How The Deletion Feature Of Instagram Works

Basically, there are two ways to delete an Instagram message from both sides, namely; unsending and deleting.

There is still a method that doesn’t require deleting or unsending, and it might not be suitable for you, that’s why it’s not shared as a method.

Unsending Instagram message

By unsending the message, the user won’t receive the message. But this will only work if they’re offline when you send the message, if they’re however online, and they’ve already received a notification in their feed, unsending won’t help.

Chances are if they’re online when you send the message, they’ll open and read the message instantly.

When this happens, even if you delete the message from both sides, it’s not of any use especially if you’re trying to delete the message to prevent them from reading it.

Before you decide to unsend the message, you should check the read receipt which is displayed in the DM thread.

If it’s shown that they haven’t read the message, you can unsend it, chances are they’re offline, and when they log in, they won’t receive any notification.

Another important point to remember is that some users are using tracking tools, these tools will record all their interactions.

If it happens the user is managing their account with such tools, that notification will be shown to them because chances are the message is now stored on the servers used by the tracking services.

If they’re online and they’ve received a notification but haven’t read the message, it will disappear and that means they can’t read the message after you unsend it.

In summary, we can say that unsending an Instagram message is useful if the user hasn’t read it, and will delete the message from both sides. Let’s now take a look at the second aspect.

Permanently deleting an Instagram message

There is a way to permanently delete an Instagram message on both sides, this can be a conversation that is some days or months old.

You decided that you’re not interested in continuing to communicate with the user or for some of the reasons we shared, you want to eliminate the message.

When you permanently delete a message on Instagram, the entire conversation thread between you and the user is deleted for good.

You won’t have any conversation thread between you and the user. This method is recommended when you’re sure you want to delete all conversations.

What’s The Difference Between Unsending And Permanently Deleting An Instagram Message

It’s good to highlight the difference between the two methods and based on the explanations provided, I believe you can guess the difference.

The major difference is that unsending will only delete a single message. The remaining conversations in the thread will still be available even after unsending the message you recently sent to the user.

While permanently deleting the message on the other hand will erase the entire conversation between the users involved.

There is also a way to only delete the message only from your own side, while the other user still has access to the conversations.

Which Is The Best Option

If you’re just interested in deleting one conversation, you should use the “Unsend Feature”, but you have to act fast before the other user login to their Instagram account and read the message.

If you’re however interested in eliminating all the conversation for whatever reason, you can go ahead and permanently delete it.

Let’s now share how to delete the messages on Instagram using the two options mentioned.

How To Delete Instagram Messages From Both Sides Using The Unsend Feature

The Unsend option is available directly inside the DM where you send the message. As mentioned previously, you should check whether they’ve seen the message or not, because if they did, unsending won’t be of any use.

You’ll just have to use another option to delete the message knowing that they’ve already read the message. With that said, let’s take a look at the steps;

  1. Open your Instagram app and log in.
  2. Tap or click on the DM button which is at the top.
  3. Locate the conversation thread where you want to delete the message you sent.
  4. You’ll then need to long-tap the message you want to delete.
  5. You’ll be presented with two options, namely; “Unsend Message” and “Copy Text”.
  6. Since you’re interested in deleting the message on both sides, you should tap on “Unsend Message”.
  7. You’ll then be prompted with a confirmation message box, you should accept by tapping “Unsend” to proceed with deleting the message on both sides.
  8. You have now deleted the message on both sides if the user hasn’t read the message.
  9. You cannot recover this action, that’s why you’re prompted to confirm your action. Make sure you select the right message to avoid accidental deletion which cannot be recovered.

How To Permanently Delete Instagram Messages By Deleting The Chat/Conversation

This is the second option we discussed earlier, it’s also easy to execute just like in the case of Unsending the message. Here are the steps to do that;

  1. Open your Instagram app and login as usual.
  2. Tap on the DM button where you can see all your conversations.
  3. Select the one you wish to delete and long tap on it.
  4. You can see three options: Delete, Mute Video Chats, and Mute Messages. You then tap on Delete which is your concern for now.
  5. You’ll be asked to confirm, just tap on “Delete” again.
  6. That’s it, your messages are now deleted on all sides.

These are the two options for deleting Instagram messages on both sides, but the steps outlines involve using the app. Let’s share how to execute the steps on PC using your browser, that’s using the web version of Instagram.

How To Delete Instagram Messages On PC Using Unsend

  1. You should launch your favorite web browser and visit
  2. Login to your account by adding your login credentials.
  3. You can see the DM button link/button placed at the top, and you need to click on that.
  4. You can see the messages and you need to click on the Meatball menu button for the message you want to delete.
  5. You’ll notice the option “Unsend” and clicking on it will delete the message you have sent on both sides.
  6. Confirm by clicking “Unsend” again.
  7. The selected message is now deleted.

How To Permanently Delete Chat On Instagram Using PC

  1. You should login to your Instagram account on your browser as you did previously.
  2. Click on the DM button also at the top.
  3. Click on the chat you want to erase to open it.
  4. The chat thread now opens and you need to click on the information icon button which is by the right side of your username you had the chat with.
  5. You’ll be able to see the option “Delete Chat” at the bottom.
  6. Click on Delete to confirm your action.
  7. You have now erased the chat thread for both sides.

This is how easy it is to delete Instagram messages from both sides. As time goes by, you might want to clean your Instagram messages especially when there are many chat threads, so much that you find it hard to locate some of your important chat threads.

This way you can get rid of the chats that don’t matter to keep your account clean. If you like, you can still back up your chat messages before deleting them.

There are many services out there that can do the task, but they come at a cost, you should choose a service that suits your needs.

How Do You Prevent Someone From Sending You Messages

One of the reasons why you might want to delete a message is that you don’t want the other party to send you messages again.

That doesn’t help much because they can always create another conversation thread. If you don’t want anyone to have a conversation with you on Instagram, you need to block them.

By blocking the user, they won’t be able to send you messages by any means. After blocking the user, you still need to delete the conversations you created in the past, this makes it impossible for them to contact you.

You’ll be invisible to them and they can’t see your interactions via notifications.

This now answers the question a lot of users ask; Do messages disappear after you block someone? That is no, you’ll have to delete them by yourself.

That’s it for this article on how to delete Instagram messages from both sides, it’s a straightforward process and can be done easily without investing in fancy tools.

Of course, if you like you can use your social media management tools to delete the messages, but it’s not necessary unless you’re managing a lot of Instagram accounts. Thank you for reading and don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comments.


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